Some of them bring on consultants in the sexual health world, but only after the fact, and by and large their founders do not come from our community. These entrepreneurs may believe they have our best interests at heart, but they will never understand the stigma as well as someone who lives with it. They do not listen to the needs and opinions of this community, and they take funding and attention away from real efforts to provide treatment and testing, and to de-stigmatize sexual health.
STI dating services are almost always unethical money-grabs that prey on what seems like a potentially underserved niche market. This Silicon Valley opportunism is antithetical to real social change and progress.
They reach out to me, share my posts and my talks on their social media platforms, and contact my fellow activists when I refuse to collaborate with them. You cannot say your service fights STI stigma when it relies on stigma to exist. What we need is better sex education and health care, access to therapy and more representation. These companies are nothing but vultures, co-opting the language of activism. Get my name outcha mouth and get off my lawn.
I contracted HSV-1 unknown location in my late 40s. Like other posters, I would rather avoid the worry of passing the virus to someone else by finding someone that already has it.
My ex-wife had it, and I never worried about it. The irony is that I never got it from her after 17 years of marriage…I got it from a casual fling afterwards. Invariably, most of the women I find on the sites have HSV-2 genitally. So far, ALL of the women in my area are Type 2. I have even been under considerable stress…and nothing.
That look hurts me.
They have to decide if its worth it? Im like 8 years positive and i wonder about the sites, never touched them, but wondered because screw the talk…. Someone with it wont force me to experience that with them. I had sex unprotected and contracted so its my bad. Anyway, when you tell someone and they accept it, do you simply use antivirals, condoms, or just wait a week if you feel a sore?
Thank you for this. My daughter recently contracted herpes and I was thinking about these sites as a way to support her.
Dating Sites for People with Herpes Aren't All They're Cracked Up to Be demonstration of how innovative online dating platforms can be. If you have herpes, you might see online dating as pretty scary. These sites will help.
I am now looking at them in a total different light. She is a bright outgoing fun person and should not let this stop her in anyway — nor limit her potential friend or dating pool. Again — thank you. I see your point, however I believe that these sites allow individuals the sense of safety in knowing they will not pass this virus onto a partner. That is all I am looking for.
The inviting site is available for members with all sorts of relationships statuses, including those who are married and in a committed relationship, but is restricted to people only with HSV-1 or HSV-2, which narrows the playing field a bit. Features such as video introductions and private albums allow you to make your experience on the site truly unique.
Some of them bring on consultants in the sexual health world, but only after the fact, and by and large their founders do not come from our community. Their parent company also owns Match. All the best, Matt. Positive Singles boasts of 30, registered UK members - while Herpes Dating says it has , members — with more than 60, dating success stories. I have not shut myself off from the world, but am certainly thankful for such sites as positive singles. Have any two letters ever before had the power to strike such terror into the hearts of singletons everywhere?
You can sign up for a free membership and use about half of the features on the site, or upgrade to a paid membership to unlock over 30 additional features. Learn more at MPwH. H-Mates is dedicating to connecting people with STDs for anything from friendships and pen pal encounters to serious dating and marriage. The site has a rather detailed signup form that looks much like one from its founding date of , and clean and simple, if not a little too simplistic layout. It has all the features of a basic dating site and operates just like one. The site is not solely dedicated to people with herpes, but there is a profile field that lets you select the types members you are looking to meet based on the type of STD s they have.
The options for self expression are impressive, with the ability to upload an unlimited number of profile pictures and even add a video introduction. You get all the typical online dating ways of interacting, and even some rather unique ones such as sending virtual kisses, along with a legitimate amount of privacy features including anti-spam filters and the ability to moderate who views your profile.
Learn more at H-Mates. As one friend tells me: We need education, not alienation.
Accessibility links Skip to article Skip to navigation. Wednesday 16 January Online dating finds a new niche STI online dating agencies are growing apace, as the number people with sexually transmitted infections in the UK increases.
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